Sitting down to write this feels, well, really strange. After all, I'm the secret one. The silent one. The one who spends her days working in alignment with companies to share their stories in a visceral, authentic way — allowing each company to embody intention, heart and unwavering commitment to serve with each keystroke.
Words have the ability to create new thoughts. The way we think imbues who we are.
I do not take the work I do each day lightly.
I spent more than a minute telling Devon why I didn't need to be recognized as part of SheNative's team.
"It's your work that matters. Your impact. Your commitment to bettering the lives of women who've been through shit, survived, and are ready to thrive."
"This never happens. Like ever. I'm not your employee. I'm your contractor. My role is to be silent to allow you to make noise."
"No one needs to see me. I don't matter in all of this."
Clearly, Devon refused to listen to me. In fact, it's the last argument — that I didn't matter — that got her really going. She flat-out disagreed, talked to Tori-Lynn (SheNative's Director of Business Development), and BAM. The two of them set out to get me to write on here.
You see, I think Devon knew my secret: I'd consciously chosen to be unseen online or anywhere else due to years of holding a never spoken about role in my family life — the role of caregiver to my ever-beautiful Mom who's chronically ill. MS. Lupus. Clinical Depression. Yeah, there's a bit happening there. And by "a bit" I mean...a lot.
Here's the part that Devon doesn't know: There was a good chunk of time in my life where caregiving was all-encompassing. And I forgot that I matter. I forgot myself.
Hey, it's okay! I remember now.
Anyone who knows Devon knows there are waaaaay more than three reasons to be grateful for her. Here are three of mine:
I'm Rosie Paulyk. And as a SheNative collaborator — and now can't-miss-it-contributor — to SheNative's blog, I have one thing left to say today.
Thank you. Thank you, Devon, for trusting me to contribute to SheNative's blog and for reminding me that yes — I do matter. And thank you for spending this time with me today. I can't wait for what's to come.
Photo Credit: Axis Imagery
“You don’t have to do everything alone. In fact, you’re not alone. There are a bunch of people who care about you deeply; you might not even know who they are yet. But they’re there, accessible, and want to see you thrive in the world. You are a contribution and you’ll continue to be a contribution. Just be patient.”
These are the words Indigenous law school graduate Harpreet Ahuja would tell her 12 year old self. Years later, she’s moments away from becoming a lawyer and a challenger. I could share more about this fearless Indigenous woman changemaker (talking with her on Zoom was a joy -- highly recommend!), but her words hold great wisdom -- colouring these pages with resilience and courage. And so, without further delay, here is our first interview together!